Slide outline for Lesson 3.5. Twelve slides. Slides 6 and 7 are the photo pair; they are described in words here. If Sal wants a real pair on screen, he photographs an object (a mug, a beach with no people) and edits it. No slide shows a person's body, and nothing on these slides mentions weight or dieting; body image is health class.
Self-Concept, Self-Image, and the Filtered Life
- Lesson 3.5: Self-Concept, Peers, and Stress
- Unit 3: Growing Up, Getting Along
- Do now, private, nobody shares: write one word that describes you. Then one word you think a friend would use. Same word or different?
Teacher notes
Hands only: same or different. No words said aloud.
Two mirrors
- Your first word: self-concept, the mirror facing in
- Your second word: self-image, the mirror facing out
- Today: where each comes from, and what a phone does to both
Teacher notes
Image: two hand mirrors drawn side by side, one turned toward the viewer and one turned away.
Three definitions
- Self-concept: what you believe is true about yourself ("I am good at fixing things"; "I am bad at math")
- Self-image: how you think you look to other people
- Self-esteem: how you feel about both
Teacher notes
Students copy onto Part 1. Whiteboard check after slide 5.
What builds them, what dents them
- What people say to you: family, friends, teachers, strangers online
- What you do and how it goes: a lab that worked; a test that did not
- What you see: other people, ads, feeds
- What you tell yourself
- The influences map from Lesson 3.4 is the environment half of your self-concept
Teacher notes
Students fill one general example per box. Not about themselves.
Positive and negative self-concept
- Tries new things / avoids them
- Says "not yet" / says "never"
- Takes a compliment / argues with it
- Asks for help / hides the problem
- Both can change. That is the next slide
Teacher notes
Whiteboard check: "Self-concept or self-image: 'I think people see me as the funny one.'" Self-image.
Photo A (unedited)
- A person on a beach at noon
- Sun straight overhead: shadows under the eyes, flat harsh light
- Pale sky. A crowd, a lifeguard stand, a trash can at the edge of the frame
- The horizon tilts a little to the left
- Skin looks like skin: a few marks, some shine
Teacher notes
Image: exactly as described; if a real photo is used, it is an object or a landscape, never a student.
Do not comment on the person. Comment on the light, the background, the tilt.
Photo B (edited)
- Same person, same spot
- Warm golden light, like sunset
- Smooth skin, no marks, no shine
- The crowd and the stand blurred to soft shapes. Deep blue sky. Straight horizon
- The trash can is gone; the frame ends before it
- Find five changes. For each: what is it trying to make you feel?
Teacher notes
8 minutes on Part 2. Word bank: light, smooth, blur, crop, color, straighten.
Twelve taps
- The edit took about twelve taps and two minutes
- About thirty photos were taken to get this one
- When someone compares their real Tuesday to Photo B, who wins?
- Nobody real. The comparison is against a two-minute edit of a one-in-thirty photo
Teacher notes
One sentence on the handout. Then move to self-talk; this is the builder they control.
The self-talk swap
- Self-talk is the fourth builder. It is the one you control
- The rule: not fake, accurate
- "I am terrible at this" becomes "I got two of the six steps; I need the other four"
- "Nobody likes me" does not become "everybody loves me." It becomes "two people sat with me at lunch today"
- Six general lines on Part 3. Then one private line on the back, never collected
Teacher notes
Clipboard during this step: yes or no on "accurate, not fake."
The image you send
- Self-image goes both ways. You also send one
- Appearance: clean, put together, not fancy
- Words: what you say and how
- Nonverbal: eye contact, posture, phone down
- Behavior: on time, follows through
Teacher notes
These four channels come back online in Lesson 3.9 and in person in Lesson 3.13.
Two people, one interview
- Both are interviewing for the same volunteer job
- The first walks in looking at a phone, slumps, does not look up until "hello"
- The second walks in, smiles, makes eye contact, says "Thanks for meeting with me," sits up
- Before a single question, the interviewer has an impression of each
- A first impression takes seconds. It can be changed with actions over time
Teacher notes
Part 4 table: what each person did in each channel. One thing the first person could change tomorrow.
Closure card and tomorrow
- Index card. Private side (you keep): one negative line and its swap
- Public side (turn in): 3 factors that build self-concept; 2 things an edit changes; 1 channel you project through
- Tomorrow: peer pressure, and exactly what to say
Teacher notes
Say twice that the private side stays with them.