# Slides 3.5: Self-Concept, Self-Image, and the Filtered Life Slide outline for Lesson 3.5. Twelve slides. Slides 6 and 7 are the photo pair; they are described in words here. If Sal wants a real pair on screen, he photographs an object (a mug, a beach with no people) and edits it. No slide shows a person's body, and nothing on these slides mentions weight or dieting; body image is health class. ## Slide 1: Self-Concept, Self-Image, and the Filtered Life - Lesson 3.5: Self-Concept, Peers, and Stress - Unit 3: Growing Up, Getting Along - Do now, private, nobody shares: write one word that describes you. Then one word you think a friend would use. Same word or different? Notes: Hands only: same or different. No words said aloud. ## Slide 2: Two mirrors - Your first word: self-concept, the mirror facing in - Your second word: self-image, the mirror facing out - Today: where each comes from, and what a phone does to both Image: two hand mirrors drawn side by side, one turned toward the viewer and one turned away. ## Slide 3: Three definitions - Self-concept: what you believe is true about yourself ("I am good at fixing things"; "I am bad at math") - Self-image: how you think you look to other people - Self-esteem: how you feel about both Notes: Students copy onto Part 1. Whiteboard check after slide 5. ## Slide 4: What builds them, what dents them - What people say to you: family, friends, teachers, strangers online - What you do and how it goes: a lab that worked; a test that did not - What you see: other people, ads, feeds - What you tell yourself - The influences map from Lesson 3.4 is the environment half of your self-concept Notes: Students fill one general example per box. Not about themselves. ## Slide 5: Positive and negative self-concept - Tries new things / avoids them - Says "not yet" / says "never" - Takes a compliment / argues with it - Asks for help / hides the problem - Both can change. That is the next slide Notes: Whiteboard check: "Self-concept or self-image: 'I think people see me as the funny one.'" Self-image. ## Slide 6: Photo A (unedited) - A person on a beach at noon - Sun straight overhead: shadows under the eyes, flat harsh light - Pale sky. A crowd, a lifeguard stand, a trash can at the edge of the frame - The horizon tilts a little to the left - Skin looks like skin: a few marks, some shine Image: exactly as described; if a real photo is used, it is an object or a landscape, never a student. Notes: Do not comment on the person. Comment on the light, the background, the tilt. ## Slide 7: Photo B (edited) - Same person, same spot - Warm golden light, like sunset - Smooth skin, no marks, no shine - The crowd and the stand blurred to soft shapes. Deep blue sky. Straight horizon - The trash can is gone; the frame ends before it - Find five changes. For each: what is it trying to make you feel? Notes: 8 minutes on Part 2. Word bank: light, smooth, blur, crop, color, straighten. ## Slide 8: Twelve taps - The edit took about twelve taps and two minutes - About thirty photos were taken to get this one - When someone compares their real Tuesday to Photo B, who wins? - Nobody real. The comparison is against a two-minute edit of a one-in-thirty photo Notes: One sentence on the handout. Then move to self-talk; this is the builder they control. ## Slide 9: The self-talk swap - Self-talk is the fourth builder. It is the one you control - The rule: not fake, accurate - "I am terrible at this" becomes "I got two of the six steps; I need the other four" - "Nobody likes me" does not become "everybody loves me." It becomes "two people sat with me at lunch today" - Six general lines on Part 3. Then one private line on the back, never collected Notes: Clipboard during this step: yes or no on "accurate, not fake." ## Slide 10: The image you send - Self-image goes both ways. You also send one - Appearance: clean, put together, not fancy - Words: what you say and how - Nonverbal: eye contact, posture, phone down - Behavior: on time, follows through Notes: These four channels come back online in Lesson 3.9 and in person in Lesson 3.13. ## Slide 11: Two people, one interview - Both are interviewing for the same volunteer job - The first walks in looking at a phone, slumps, does not look up until "hello" - The second walks in, smiles, makes eye contact, says "Thanks for meeting with me," sits up - Before a single question, the interviewer has an impression of each - A first impression takes seconds. It can be changed with actions over time Notes: Part 4 table: what each person did in each channel. One thing the first person could change tomorrow. ## Slide 12: Closure card and tomorrow - Index card. Private side (you keep): one negative line and its swap - Public side (turn in): 3 factors that build self-concept; 2 things an edit changes; 1 channel you project through - Tomorrow: peer pressure, and exactly what to say Notes: Say twice that the private side stays with them.